How To Fall In Love (And Stay In Love)
Want to walk into the sunset ever after with that special person? Let me share a few pointers with you right now.
Begin With The End In Mind
I want to remind you of a very powerful success principle that works in any area of your life. It says that you should always begin with the end in mind.
Whatever you want to accomplish, you start with that, and then work backwards to create the steps needed to reach your goal. You can take this principle and apply it to your love life and once you understand how it works, everything falls into place.
So, before you even begin to search for answers to any of your relationship problems, ask yourself “What is it that I want to experience in my relationship, what kind of a commitment do I want, what kind of person would best fulfill my needs”.
Once you know what you truly desire, you’ll have a clear image of the ideal relationship you want for yourself.
Once you know what you truly desire, you’ll have a clear image of the ideal relationship you want for yourself. Because, if you don’t know what you want, you won’t know when you've gotten it.
Solve Conflicts – The Easy Way
One of the most important components in any successful relationship is knowing how to solve conflicts. Most people would just ignore the elephant in the room hoping it would eventually go away. Unless you’re Houdini, you won’t make it go away and you’ll just end up in a ton of frustration and repressed anger because of all the unsolved issues.
Acting As If
I found the following exercise to be extremely helpful whenever a situation appears overwhelming. Every time you find yourself in a tough spot, reclaim the loving relationship you want by “acting as if” you and your partner are getting along just fine.
This way you create the perfect environment to manifest your desires, and as you do, you are sending out a powerful signal that would bring you circumstances that match that. If it seems almost ridiculous, try to communicate as little as possible while gradually restoring peace and harmony.
Speak The Same Love Language
Unhappiness in any relationship often has one simple cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman (world famous marriage & family life expert). During three decades of marriage counseling, he has identified five love languages:
- words of affirmation
- quality time
- receiving gifts
- acts of service
- physical touch
Some people want focused attention, others need praise and affirmations, others want gifts, while others see cooking a meal as the supreme proof of their partner’s love. Other people find physical touch the greatest sign of affection: holding hands, giving back rubs and sexual contact.
Chapman also explains how you can discover your spouse’s – and your own – love language by following some very simple steps that you’ll find in his “Five Love Languages” series.
When we have nothing to hide, we have everything to give. Within a loving relationship you can safely reveal your own truth and it will become evident to you that hiding the truth limits your ability to love your partner. And when you do that, you can’t help but limit yourself.
So, if you want a healthy marriage, if you are determined to build a successful marriage, then this is one advice that you can’t afford to ignore. Always ask yourself: what can I do to make my partner’s life easier and how can I better demonstrate the love I have for him/her?