We may not mean to say or do something that caused anguish or harm, but in the hurting we may have created a path that becomes closed off. In recognizing the need, it is often easy to express a hollow apology; but this in itself can create a deeper level of hurt. The requirement is in the truth of the feeling, knowing that there needs to be a process of healing and it must begin with you.
In making this connection you will also learn about your own inner self, as words may flow that you never thought about
Setting the Time Aside
Making an apology that is from the heart means creating the moment that reflects the expression. It doesn’t have to be accompanied with fanfare or gifts, but instead just drawing the person alone, looking them in the eyes and stating the expressions that you are truly feeling. In making this connection you will also learn about your own inner self, as words may flow that you never thought about.
Committing to the Promise
In recognizing and acknowledging the pain and following through with your apology, you are also committing to seeing how the hurt was caused. There is no valor in creating the same situation, only in the promise to not cause this harm again. The honor is in seeing each other in respect and dignity and the words will carry weight by never repeating the problem again.