It is very easy to fall into a life where we enable, in some cultures it is part of the expectation. But there is a trap that exists when one enables and the vice grip doesn’t let go. The process itself entangles all that is involved and it takes recognition and strength to change. But with perseverance, it can be done.

Removing yourself as well as them from the toxic circle takes time and may seem hard, but it is the release of the bonds that set everyone free

Old Habits Die Hard

Enabling is a cycle, a kind of dance that each partner plays. The steps are the same only the music changes, and the first layer is knowing it has to stop. The others that are involved in the charade will continue to try to drag you back, and sometimes standing still, and not participating is the hardest step of all.

Altering Gives Freedom

Those that are enabled have used you as a crutch. They will plead and cry and not understand, but you need to let it go. Removing yourself as well as them from the toxic circle takes time and may seem hard, but it is the release of the bonds that set everyone free. When all is done, there will be a renewed sense of respect and love.