While we choose our friends, we aren’t given that luxury when it comes to family. Each of us may have the misfortune of having family members that simply cross into bristling that can be from discomfort to sheer dislike. There may be a number of reasons and most reach back into a longevity of history and experience, but nonetheless, you are often placed in conditions where you have to deal with them.
Keep it simple and cordial and when it appears that they might try to start trouble, simply walk away
Whether these family members feel the same about you or not, it is always best to avoid the confrontations. There is a deep history that can involve pain and anguish and even the smallest argument can dredge up feelings that have nothing to do with the topic. Keep it simple and cordial and when it appears that they might try to start trouble, simply walk away. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stand up for yourself; it does equate to ‘picking your battles’.
Don’t Fall Prey to Gossip
More than likely the family member that you can’t stand is also the focus of negativity by others. The personality, actions and even the words can quickly transition into a gossip situation. Stay out of the drama and maintain your sense of dignity. Don’t be quick to judge as you may not be aware of all of the details. Keep conversations steady and directed away from making things worse than they already are. Each person has their own story and by maintaining dignity you can retain your own self-esteem.